The Holidays are Here... Helpful Tips to Manage the Stress

The Cohen Military Family Center at NYU Langone Health offers ways to overcome holiday stressors

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Dec 11, 2019, 20:00 ET

BROOKLYN, N.Y., Dec. 11, 2019 /PRNewswire/ -- There is a lot of activity during the holiday season: exchanging presents, lots of eating, and, of course, an overload of gatherings and family interactions. While these can be fun and joyous occasions for most, some may be struggling with mental health challenges and other life stressors, which can be triggered by the holiday season.

The holidays can be joyous -- but also stressful, particularly for active military, veterans and their family and friends. Experts at NYU Langone's Cohen Military Family Center and others affiliated with the Cohen Veterans Network offer helpful tips to help you get through the holidays.

This is particularly true for many active military, veterans and their family and friends. The Cohen Veterans Network, of which the Steven A. Cohen Military Family Center in NYU Langone Health's Department of Psychiatry is a member, offers some advice below on how to get through the holidays:

Engage in Self-Care. Amanda Spray, PhD, director of the Steven A. Cohen Military Family Center in NYU Langone Health's Department of Psychiatry, emphasizes the importance of maintaining one's exercise regimen over the holiday seasons. "We often forget about self-care during this time of year, and it is essential to take care of ourselves as we prepare to celebrate, host our families, and engage in potentially stressful interactions," says Dr. Spray
Ariane Ling, PhD, a staff psychologist at the NYU"s Cohen Clinic, also stresses the importance of self-care. "Even if it means taking a few minutes to cope with a stress ball or silly putty, these small moments of self-care can be the breaks we need in a stressful season," Dr. Ling adds.
Lead clinician Aileen Serrano, LPC, from the Cohen Military Family Clinic in El Paso, TX, suggests scheduling personal time into your calendar to prevent the stress from becoming overwhelming. "Use those times to breathe and relax before you start to feel overwhelmed," she adds.
Set Boundaries. Laura Price, PhD, a psychologist at the NYU clinic, and coordinator of its Telemental Health Program, suggests setting good boundaries about discussion of politics over holiday meals. "Have rules of engagement around politics to mitigate flying drumsticks," she says.
Pay Attention to Loss. Shari Hauser, PhD, director of the Cohen Clinic in San Diego, provides specific suggestions for coping with loss around the holidays:

Schedule time to grieve if you know you will miss a tradition, person or even how things used to be. For those who have lost a loved one, the holidays can bring a fresh wave of pain. Plan time to acknowledge it. An hour here, 20 minutes there, allows you time to process feelings -- or hold them until you have time to process them. This works for deployed spouses away from family, divorced or separated parents spending the holiday away from their kids, or even those struggling with the loss of a pet.
Modify traditions. For example, some family members no longer with us are remembered around the holidays for their baking expertise --but you might lack the same skills. If you still want treats still a part of your holiday traditions, consider inviting a friend over, pick one recipe and bake together. This can now be your tradition.
Remember, it is a season of high hopes and searing losses for everyone, even if we do not know it. A lot of grace and forgiveness goes a long way. When you are going through rough patches, you sometimes can be rude to everyone around you. Your expectations and fears sometimes keep you hyper-vigilant and unable to connect and unaware of even whose feelings you are hurting. So cut everyone some slack and work on restraint. Your difficulties should not ruin the holidays for others. And if these feelings persist after the holidays, talk to the person and see what was really going on.

Pace Yourself. Clinical intern Jessie Eisenmann from the Cohen Clinic in Clarksville, TN, suggests giving a lot of thought to what you can and cannot do during the holiday season. "You don't have to attend every holiday party, participate in every activity and see everyone who wants to see you," she says. "Some things may be worse triggers for sad emotions than others."
Eisenmann adds that this can be particularly true when a loss is fairly recent. "Just be honest with yourself and with others, and politely turn down an invitation. It's OK. You can always revisit the situation next year. Your family and friends will understand, and if they don't – that's their problem, not yours," she adds.

If you are a post-9/11 veteran or military family member struggling with stress, depression and/or anxiety this holiday season, contact the Cohen Military Family Center at NYU Langone Heath at (855) 698-4677 or email us at [email protected].

About the Steven A. Cohen Military Family Center at NYU Langone Health

At the Steven A. Cohen Military Family Center at NYU Langone, part of the Cohen Veterans Network, we provide free, compassionate care for veterans and military families who are experiencing the long-term effects of all phases of military service and other life stresses, including relationship difficulties, school problems, and unemployment and relocation issues. We welcome veterans, including anyone who has served in the United States Armed Services, regardless of role, discharge status, or combat experience, as well as members of the National Guard and Reserve. We also extend our services to the parents, siblings, spouses and partners, children, caretakers, and other family members of active-duty personnel, veterans, and members of the National Guard or Reserve.

We offer high-quality, accessible, and integrated mental healthcare. Our free, confidential services are available in-person or through our Telemental Health Program. For patients in New York and Connecticut, these online sessions are offered through the NYU Langone Health app. The confidential platform allows our mental health professionals to provide personalized care to military veterans and family members who prefer to work with their care team remotely or at flexible times. We do not share people's confidential information with the U.S. Department of Veteran Affairs or any other public, private, or government entities unless required by law or with written permission. We comply with federal guidelines set by the Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA).

Our center hours are Monday through Thursday from 9:00AM to 8:00PM and Friday from 9:00AM to 6:00PM. We are closed on weekends and holidays. If you need immediate assistance on those days, please contact the national Veterans Crisis Line at 800-273-8255.

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